I call my paternal grandmother out of obligation but I'm getting really sick and tired of hearing how great my father is. She's the only person in my entire family who doesn't know what he did to me (she's not in her right mind and none of us know how she would take it). The rest of his side of the family pretends like it never happened and my mother's side of the family won't let it go.
It's just such a trigger when I call her. I feel like yelling into the phone, "Shut up! He molested me! He's going to rot in Hell!" But instead I say nothing and try my hardest to ignore it.
Now I'm fuming and wanting to cry. It's my own fault for calling her but she's old and lives far away and I feel it's my duty to keep in touch.